That first time

 

That first time you hear those words

that first time someone tells you, I'm sorry we did everything we could

that first time you lose a loved one is never easy, it hits you hard, it knocks you right off your feet and takes your breath away.

I'll never forget that first time I lost a loved one.  I was young and wasn't even sure of the grief stages or how to process what had just happened

You see the thing about grief is no matter what age you first go through losing a loved one you still go through the motions, you still go through those stages.

Grief is the price we pay for love. I've had my fair share of losing loved ones.

Everyone handles the grieving process differently, the stages don't hit you in order.

One day you can feel the depression stage and the next you can feel angry. This is our way of coping with what has happened.

It's ok to go backwards in these stages, it's also ok to go through them for prolonged periods of time. There is no timeline on grief, there is no timeline on the stages

That first time you lose someone you love, it changes you.